OUR BOOK
WHAT EVERY CATHOLIC COUPLE SHOULD KNOW
Marital Sexuality, Birth Control and NFP
Imprimatur pending.
I wrote this booklet back in 1996 and it has been well received (we're headed for our 3rd printing! Praise God!). I made sure it was 100% loyal to Church Teaching.
This booklet answers very delicate questions... many questions regarding what is acceptable in marital relations and the true dangers of birth control.
Many of the questions that we answer deal with subjects we all wonder about, but were hesitant (or too embarrassed) to ask a priest. In fact, many priests have written to express their gratitude for the book because they sometimes find it difficult to answer certain questions.
Judie Brown (founder of American Life League) wrote for a copy and then ordered a large quantity. She enclosed a sweet note in which she stated, "...this is the one and only resource we will ever need!"
This booklet has been recommended by many Priests & Pro-life Doctors! Please contact us if you need large quantities for Pre Cana classes.
Here is a bit of feedback regarding our booklet:
Your book is the one and only resource American Life League will ever need. I plan to distribute your book, at once, to every medical doctor on our mailing list, and to share it with every listener on every radio show on which I appear on the topics relating to human sexuality. Judie Brown, President of American Life League (ALL)
Three women changed their minds about contraception because of your booklet packed with Janet Smith's tape! Dr. and Mrs. J. Burnha
I was given a copy of your book by a patient. It is quite impressive and I feel that it could do great good for the Church. Thank you for an outstanding effort. Dr. Kim Anthony Hardey, OB/GYN
I also consider "What Every Catholic Couple Should Know" to be an accurate presentation of our Church's teaching in this delicate and vitally important area. Fr. Phillip Bloom (scroll down to read his review!)
05-09
Sorry, CURRENTLY OUT OF BOOKLETS
- We are hoping the apostolate gets enough funding to bring this
popular booklet back.
Kindly
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"Dear Wendy, I have given away all of my copies of your booklet. A friend of mine who is a new Priest keeps taking them from me! Is it possible to get another 100 or so? God bless you for your efforts..Marty M., MO"
The following review is by Father Phillip Bloom:
What Every Catholic Couple Should Know (Marital Sexuality, Birth Control and Natural Family Planning) by Wendy J. Cukierski (PO Box 1170, Vernon, NY 13476) 32pp.
Using a question and answer format, Wendy Cukierski has written a booklet which will be a great help to other wives and married couples. In the first part, on marital sexuality, she asks "Is it anyone's business what a married couple does in their bedroom?" Her answer: "Yes. It is God's business..." When you think about it, the most important human activity (apart from the sacraments) is the intimacy of a husband and wife. Wendy cites I Cor 6 to show that God indeed is concerned about that activity and has established some clear rules.
With that starting point she gives short responses to questions many married couples have: Is refusal of marital relations wrong? Is oral stimulation forbidden? Clitoral stimulation? Anal sex? Sex toys? Reading or viewing erotic materials? Every confessor has heard these questions, especially the first one. But he also knows that many married people never bring them up either because of embarrassment or because they have somehow separated their "spiritual life" from their "flesh" or bodily existence. Wendy's book joins them nicely back together.
The most terrible area of that separation (which Pope John Paul calls a "New Manicheism") is "birth control." It is amazing that so many couples consider it a "non-issue" or one they want their doctor to decide for them. But is there a greater choice a married couple can face? This one after all involves the very meaning of their self-giving to each other. And that self-giving has the potential for calling a new human life into this world. Could any moral decision be more momentous? Yet I assure you that for many engaged couples the selection of the wedding dress and suit receives more attention. For those who see something wrong with that picture, Wendy's booklet is a nice place to start.
Once again using the question and answer format, she briefly explains what the Bible and Church teach about birth control, why it is a moral evil. She then explains the difference between contraceptives and abortifacients--and why the IUD, Norplant, Depo Provera and even the Pill are potential abortifacients. The booklet describes what is involved in tubal ligation and vasectomy--and why they are "intrinsically evil." She concludes with a question on "withdrawal" which besides being forbidden is "highly ineffective." This not a medical treatise, but what Wendy writes is well documented scientifically.
The same can be said for the final section which discusses Natural Family Planning. She explains what NFP is, how it differs from calendar rhythm method. The various signs of fertility are mentioned and how they can be effectively used to postpone or acheive a pregnancy. The benefits for marriage are layed out, including the almost non-existent divorce rate among NFP users. A common question is not avoided: If it works so well, "how come most couples who use NFP have large families?" Finally she talks about "creative continence" and how it can put "S.P.I.C.E." into a marriage relationship.
(*note from Wendy: It can not be stressed enough that NFP is to used ONLY if there is GOOD and SERIOUS reason. It is not to be
used as "Catholic Birth Control" . Please, reference: Humanae Vitae #16)
This booklet is still waiting the "Imprimatur," official approval by a Catholic bishop. It does have a warm endorsement from Wendy's own pastor*, Fr. Edwin Comeskey, STL. I also consider "What Every Catholic Couple Should Know" to be an accurate presentation of our Church's teaching in this delicate and vitally important area.
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(*Addtional Note from Wendy: Fr. Edwin Comeskey is no longer with us here on earth. He was a wonderful, loyal Priest and devout son of
Our Blessed Mother. Please, pause a moment and pray a "Hail Mary" for him. We love you Father Ed, may you rest in peace!)
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